Dearly cherished, our company is gathered right here right now to complete this thing known as⦠a period finale! Yes, it’s real, today’s occurrence represents the end of the absolute smash hit that has been S2 of
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
Also to commemorate that stopping, who safer to seriously and talk about the joys and successes of an extended distance crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You will recognize Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer xmas rom-com that come around just last year,
Beneath The Xmas Tree
,
but around these parts, this lady has another concept this is certainly almost as vaunted: Drew’s gf! Yes, that’s right, this gleaming twosome was actually birthed through the fantastic queer practice: the cross country crush.
But what would it be concerning cross country crush definitely very attracting queers internationally? Would it be the relative scarceness of like-minded queers near you? probably the capacity to flirt long distance requires a number of the pressure down? The three folks enter into all of it, AND Drew and Elise share some perhaps TOO pretty facts about their own union!
And undoubtedly discover a-game! Recently, we make Drew play the game that simply took over Twitter and Tiktok for several momentary days: “They can be a 10 but⦔ It’s a very good time, overall!
SHOW RECORDS
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Read Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Watch
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it still rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs are⦠undoubtedly quite persuasive!
+ Will Shortz is definitely title of NYT Crossword Editor!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: following we had gotten from the telephone, after which we both hopped regarding telephone two moments afterwards we are like, “So the edge is actually shut, the audience is legitimately banned to truly go throughout the border.”
Christina
: i am talking about, top among one of my favorite sound memos as well as messages i obtained from Drew, i can not keep in mind which form it was available in, it absolutely was similar, “I made this plan of action and from now on the borders tend to be closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it absolutely was a genuine second.
[theme tune performs]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And I Also’m Christina.
Drew
: And thanks for visiting
Hold Off, Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by me personally getting the giggles, therefore the concern that will be on everyone’s lips, hold off, ended up being this a night out together?
Drew
: we are after our very own 2nd period, and I also believe we resolved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe i am only taking huge finale fuel, like whenever comedies had previously been before a facility audience, and every person would walk in and there was actually an hour of applause since it was like, oahu is the last, that’s how I’m feeling. Though becoming obvious, not one person has applauded myself but, hateful. Many thanks, thanks a lot. Today i’m liked and used. Drew, who are you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this component.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Possibly season three I’ll have the intros. I am Drew Gregory, Im a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Do you know what, In my opinion when we do another season I want to have a great one we throw in at the conclusion.
Christina
: Ooh, something spicy, you need to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t anything now though.
Christina
: Okay, leave all of them wanting a lot more, I think that’s fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, i’m also a writer at Autostraddle, as well as the internet at-large. A podcaster, a with gay black lady, and a person that’s sensation very flashy below on this afternoon.
Drew
: Great, i am really grateful that you’re jazzy and I also’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning for the chance that at some point i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I don’t know, one 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spice may come. Cool research, women, she actually is solitary. Anyway, I do have a game title for all of us to experience with this hollowed day of the finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This is the traditional, by traditional After All a game title that took over the internet and TikTok for two to three weeks, “They Truly Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: Now Drew, I’m going to lay out some floor principles for your family, because i understand you love a follow through concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I say they truly are a 10, they truly are a 10 to you personally by any means that matters for you, that could be actually, that may be psychologically, this is simply someone you are feeling is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, ok, thanks a lot.
Christina
: I do not have any situations for just what else you within this person currently doing within dating life, you are simply probably need to go together with your instinct and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we are going to put where make that obvious, right here we get. They may be a 10, nonetheless they clap as soon as the jet places.
Drew
: i decided citizens were too remarkable with this specific, where it is like they truly are a 10 and this thing means they are visit a-two, come on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: So I’m likely to still offer a fairly big eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think which is reasonable. In my opinion eight may be the proper quantity of cringe removing for the little activity. Okay, that is a good begin. Okay, they may be a nine nonetheless they never text you first.
Drew
: and that I can’t ask follow up questions?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: and so i can’t ask, really carry out they content me personally back when we text? I would state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, not texting first actually, that’s harsh.
Drew
: ever before is strange.
Christina
: that is crude material. Okay, these are generally a five however they drive you to definitely every errand you have had to perform.
Drew
: that is really nice, but i possibly could constantly⦠If there had been five, I’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you like an unicamente jaunt in any event, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:What i’m saying is today my girl Elise performed drive us to an errand, and that I ended up being really grateful, but if that was the thing she did we wouldn’t maintain an union, that has been simply an additional little good extra.
Christina
: i believe that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, they have been a seven nonetheless merely pretend to read your work.
Drew
: understand facet of that that bothers myself will be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we realized it will be.
Drew
: It isn’t really the perhaps not reading it. Should they don’t study might work it really is like, I am not that, I would be slightly, it’s like never ever? But it’s okay, i really could overcome it. Nonetheless sit in my opinion about that is really what’s odd in my experience, making sure thatwill go-down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, correct. They’ve been a three nevertheless they get access to the criterion closet.
Drew
: And carry out I have you to go?
Christina
: and you also get accessibility, you reap the benefits of that access, yes.
Drew
: I could have a great affair with this six.
Christina
: I think you can. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what i am saying, I’m slamming it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I adore that. They’re an eight but their friends tend to be right.
Drew
: Okay, there clearly was some discussion relating to this, because In my opinion there clearly was a you’ll need assist. I think We perhaps had been throughout the other side on most of Autostraddle staff which mentioned that it really is great to simply have direct pals. I would like to point out that it really is good, it’s just perhaps not living We lead. All directly pals, that’s going to check-out a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will need go along with you thereon one, I would personally only think it is a little unpleasant, perplexing.
Drew
: All right buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re new to queerness and therefore are wanting to meet even more queer individuals, that’s diverse from if they’re an established period queer that is want, guess what happens? I prefer becoming one lesbian during my friend selection of straight folks.
Christina
: Yeah, I would personally feel the same way if it had been a Black individual that was like, “There isn’t any dark friends,” I would wind up as, “what are you doing there?” Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.
Christina
: you should not be the token, you should not do that to your self. Fine, we now have three more. These include a seven however they spend-all their time at the gym, continuously strength training up and down. I don’t know what folks carry out at the gym.
Drew
: All of their leisure time. I assume it all depends about what counts as spare time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: But that’s good. I assume it all depends largely for my situation, which I’m not asking a follow question, i am sticking with five, nevertheless depends for me what counts as sparetime.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: Can we view flicks collectively, or head out to consume, would be that free time? Isn’t operate time free time, or is it really like as soon as we lack other pursuits?
Christina
: we listen to you, I hear you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: fine. They can be six, however their mother is hotter than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to increase or down.
Christina
: I know, correct?
Drew
: I don’t consider i really could actually date some one for their⦠It is like if I’m perhaps not keen on someone to start with, i am not likely going to be internet dating them.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: I am not going to be want, really, they are able to turn into their hot mother. I believe I would point out that they can be still a six, I’m merely planning perhaps not refer to them as and I’m likely to contact their unique mom.
Christina
: Yeah, i’m adore it’s as you remain the same, but possibly we go out along with you only a little longer than I would personally trying-
Drew
: That’s an excellent point.
Christina
: to have some mother time. Really don’t imagine you change.
Drew
: I did some thing really poor that I nevertheless believe poorly pertaining to, which is that somebody asked me personally aside, this ended up being while I was in university, and that I wasn’t interested, and so I had been clear about this, I was obvious I found myselfn’t interested. But she planned to be pals, and I also could inform that she mentioned she planned to end up being buddies nevertheless ended up being from location-
Christina
: She was wanting.
Drew
: Yeah. But the thing is all of her buddies happened to be truly hot and cool, and so I performed always been the woman friend to be able to go out along with her friends. I did not lay about my purposes typically, but it nevertheless wasn’t the best thing I did as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: after all regrettably it simply reminds me personally of the bout of
Gender as well as the City
in which Carrie’s relationship, i really believe it’s Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but his household rocks, and she actually is like, i will do this for somewhat. I am like, yeah, definitely, whom could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not wanting to hook up together with his family, the huge difference, however you know what? It’s good, we are all great.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like everything, i am constantly saying that.
Drew
: that is an extremely fantastic point.
Christina
: the last any, is a three but features a beach home.
Drew
: I’m going to state a frustrating phrase, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: terrible to say.
Drew
: a thing that sucks about me personally, which this is gonna appear to be a humble brag, because it’s really probably a beneficial personality trait, but it sucks as you checking out the world. We went along to a school that is full of wealthy those that have a variety of awesome beach homes, as well as these other things, and I merely became friends with individuals who have been here on scholarships. Not only, but largely, I surely, i did not make friends with people who had beach homes.
Christina
: You didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, I really believe if they’re a three nevertheless they have a beach home, they truly are most likely a-two. The truth⦠I don’t know.
Christina
: Yeah, you simply can’t make that step to use the ill beach residence second.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am really wishing would be that my friends that are pretty down-to-earth, good individuals, more of them are probably continue to have that new cash right after which get coastline houses, then I’ll be capable go out with my fantastic friends and be at a beach household. This is the dream where i really could have the coastline home.
Christina
: That’s the fantasy after the afternoon, it really is new money and a coastline residence, that’s all we’re shopping for. You heard it right here first individuals.
Drew
: I like new money.
Christina
: Love new cash.
Drew
: Love new cash. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d in fact, I’d truly already been planning to perform that game since it was a thing on TikTok, therefore thanks a lot to make my personal ambitions come true.
Christina
: I was thinking it might be an enjoyable someone to perform, and it also was extremely enjoyable to come up with them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to our very own primary segment associated with week, which can be dropping for people who inhabit other metropolises. Which will be diverse from cross country relationships, because long distance interactions will start really into a commitment, they are able to keep on into a connection, this is basically the desire that queer men and women have to consider their spot that they reside and get, no, I am not gonna flirt with your people, i’ll embark on instagram.com and find someone that life extremely distant. So we have actually a, I know we always say an extremely special guest, but also for me personally this really is a very special visitor. Do you wish to present yourself?
Elise
: i might love to present myself personally. Have always been I the unique guest?
Drew
: you might be, yes.
Christina
: child, needless to say.
Elise
: Great, wow, amazing. I am Elise Bauman, i am a star, I’m a queer person, and I also’m right here today because i am resting with among hosts.
Christina
: imagine what type?
Elise
: Yeah, the remainder podcast is just the audience trying decipher which number i am sleeping with. I prefer that, it really is like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there’s really no way to know.
Elise
: there isn’t any method to know. Yeah, performs this generate me a nepotism baby? Is that the way the market works.
Christina
: Yes, that’s the industry works, girl.
Elise
: kind, great.
Christina
: this will be it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe i really could get a profession from this.
Christina
: Fingers entered for your family.
Elise
: Nepo infant to position, wow, great. I have constantly planned to end up being a nepo child.
Christina
: I’m therefore grateful.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself merely probably claim that for folks who have no idea, well I am just damaging the murder puzzle from it all, but Elise and I can be found in a relationship, and did start relationship throughout the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and that I reside in la, which have been indeed various towns, and are also in reality in numerous nations.
Elise
: they truly are without a doubt, they have been without a doubt.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say which you moved against your personal instinct, but I do feel like you might be often somebody who claims, the reason why work with a lengthy length time? There are individuals here I am able to date, why do this to your self? You understand it will be difficult, you know it’s going to be challenging, exactly why do this? Yet right here you are.
Drew
: See, which is fascinating, because I believe like i appreciated having a bit of both, i recently believe I didn’t do the cross country ones possibly since really.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i loved a lengthy length flirt.
Christina
: True.
Drew
: i really believe this just kept going. As soon as we began-
Elise
: therefore the response, Drew, was not that I became merely amazing and it was private if you ask me, and that it ended up being extremely certain if you ask me that I found myself just amazingly amazing which means you simply out of cash all your valuable regulations and you mentioned, “i must have this one.”
Drew
: What i’m saying is it’s sort of the clear answer in a lengthier good sense. In the sense so it only kept taking place. And then the good friends of pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, just who I accustomed accept, as some people may know, i’d be like, I would be wanting to date folks during pandemic in L. A. plus the surrounding aspects of L. A.. Right after which they’d make enjoyable of myself because I would personally occasionally just be like, “after all, i possibly could just make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I became always, “I mean, {this person|this i